Struggling to conceive can feel like navigating a maze full of twists, turns, and dead ends. Each negative pregnancy test may leave you feeling helpless, frustrated, and emotionally drained. If you’re yearning for clarity and control on your fertility journey, you’re not alone.

As someone who’s walked this path and found a way through, I’m here to share the 12 steps to help you regain control, find hope, and move closer to holding your baby in your arms.

Two pairs of women's running shoes walking up concrete stairs. — 12 steps to regain control over your fertility journey.

1. Trust Your Instincts

Your intuition is one of the most powerful tools you have on this journey. If something doesn’t feel right, whether it’s a treatment plan, a fertility doctor’s advice, or a timeline, pause and reassess.

Trusting your gut can often guide you to the right decisions for your unique fertility needs.

2. If It Feels Wrong, Don’t Do It

Fertility journeys are filled with options and opinions, but not every path is meant for you. Don’t feel pressured into fertility treatments like IVF or hormones and fertility drugs you aren’t sure about. If it doesn’t align with your values or comfort level it’s not for you.

Saying no to one option may open the door to something better that works to get you pregnant faster.

3. Get a Second Opinion

Medical advice is invaluable, but it’s okay to seek another perspective if you’re unsure. A second opinion from a fertility specialist can provide clarity, reassurance, or even a new direction that brings you closer to your goal of a healthy pregnancy. You want to make sure the fertility doctor and you have the same goal.

4. Don’t Be Afraid to Say No

Whether it’s a procedure, a medication, or even unsolicited advice from well-meaning friends and family, you have the right to set boundaries. Saying no can be empowering and help you stay true to your vision for your journey.

5. Don’t Be Afraid to Say Yes

On the flip side, be open to new opportunities. Sometimes, saying yes to a different fertility doctor, treatment, a fertility coach, or a holistic nutritionist can be an approach that can lead to breakthroughs. Lean into possibilities that feel aligned with your goals and values.

6. Take Steps to Keep Moving Forward

Progress doesn’t always look linear. Every small step counts, whether it’s scheduling an appointment, working with a fertility coach, trying a new fertility supplement, or simply taking a day to rest and recharge. Keep your momentum, even on the tough days.

7. Let Go of What You Can’t Control

Infertility often comes with its share of unpredictability. While it’s natural to want control, learning to release what you can’t change can bring peace. Focus on what you can control, your mindset, lifestyle, and the actions you take daily. Those things will give you the control your are looking for on your fertility journey.

Let go of what you can’t control while trying to conceive.

8. Don’t Be Scared to Pivot

Sometimes, the fertility path you started with isn’t the one that will get you to your goal. Be flexible and willing to adapt as new information and opportunities arise. A pivot might be the key to a healthy pregnancy. So many times I have ladies say, I am not willing to do IVF, or take this fertility medication, or to even wait and try to get pregnant naturally (no one wants to wait), but that pivot is so often the missing piece to the positive pregnancy test.

9. Be Kind to Yourself

Self-compassion is essential when dealing with infertility. This journey is emotionally, physically, and mentally taxing. Allow yourself grace, celebrate small wins, and remember that you’re doing the best you can. Self care is something that I as a fertility coach am always preaching.

10. Trust the Process

Although it’s easier said than done, trusting the process can help alleviate some of the stress and pressure. Believe that the steps you’re taking are leading you closer to your dream of a positive pregnancy test and a healthy baby. If you don’t have a process, then you need to book a session with me.

11. Work with a Fertility Coach who will Walk with You

Navigating infertility can feel isolating, but you don’t have to do it alone. A fertility coach can provide tailored support, actionable advice, and a compassionate ear. They can help you stay focused, informed, empowered, and give you a process that you can trust.

12. Never Give Up on Your Dreams

The road to parenthood can be long and challenging, but perseverance often leads to success. Keep your vision clear and hold onto hope. Your dream of becoming a parent is worth fighting for. Now sometimes this road may change, but at Fertility Blooms we will help you find a way.

Couple sitting in field smiling at each other. — Perseverance leads to success on the fertility road.

Why These Steps Work

These steps aren’t just theoretical, they’re practical actions that can help you feel more in control, even when the fertility journey feels overwhelming. Each step addresses a specific aspect of the fertility process, from mindset to medical decisions, ensuring that you’re equipped with the tools to move forward.

Are you Ready to Boost your Fertility?

If you’re feeling stuck or unsure about what to do next, I’m here to help. As a Holistic Nutritionist and Certified Fertility Coach, I’ve walked this path myself and have guided countless others to success. Let’s work together to create a personalized plan that addresses your unique challenges and goals.

Schedule a free consultation today, and let’s talk about how we can turn your dream into reality. Because someday, someone is going to call you mom and that someday might be closer than you think.

With a Smile,

Crystal

12 Steps to Navigate Your Fertility Journey with Confidence